Anal Sex Tips
Tip #1: Play Safe
Anal sex can
be safe, but you need to take precautions.
one: Anything that touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never
ever take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly.
You also need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis,
and gonorrhea can all be transmitted through anal sex. You simply shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.
Tip #2: Lube, lube, lube
The vagina produces it's own lubricant. The anus does not. Therefore,
you need to supply the lube, one way or another. On top of that, using a
lot of lube is good and using even more lube is better. It makes the
whole experience much more pleasant, for both partners. This is the
number one mistake people make in having anal sex: not enough lube.
All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes. We'd strongly recommend spending a little money to get a high quality water-based lubricant; remember, an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will degrade the latex in a condom, destroying its usefulness. We'd recommend products like AstroGlide or
, available in any drug store. Note, though a condom may be "lubricated", they typically don't offer as much lube as we'd recommend for anal sex.
We don't recommend specialty lubes designed for anal sex that include an anesthetic to numb the woman's sensation.
Anal sex isn't supposed to be painful. If it's painful, you need to
figure out what's wrong, not mask the pain with a topical anesthetic.
Work your way up
Start with your fingers. Try one, see how your partner reacts, then add
another. Initiate your partner slowly into the joys of anal pleasure. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure not to forget the lube, and you might also want to wear latex gloves.
As your partner gets used to your fingers, you might graduate to a
or a small dildo. Dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after.
Tip #4: Turnabout is Fair Play
Whether you're trying to convince someone to have anal sex or trying to figure out how to do it in a gentle, pain free manner, there's no better preparation that exploring anal play with yourself.
A partner is much more likely to consent to anal sex if she's seen that you're open to being on the receiving end as well. Encourage her to use her fingers inside of you, or even purchase a butt plug or small dildo and let her use that. Once she's seen you're willing to do it, it'll be hard for her to resist exploring it as well.
Of course, anal play on yourself is a great way to learn how anal sex feels and to learn how to make it more comfortable for your partner. You might also be surprised just how much you like it...
Tip #5: Clear the Way
Before having anal sex, you should evacuate the premises. If you don't,
it can be messy and unpleasant for all. A normal bowel movement should
be good enough, but some people also opt for an enema. Check out this
site for the pros and cons of